dealing with instructors who don't like me...

[katster]

waiting on a data run, sorta trying to pay attention in class. It's not holding my interest. Granted, I'm half-asleep too.

I like Brian, and he's doing his best, and he took a lot of time to help me out on Friday, and I owe him.

It's the other instructor I'm not so fond of.

You've seen me mention Glushko around. I'm pretty annoyed with him. Because it's obvious he plays favourites. And it's obvious that I'm not one of his favourites. He can't even manage to acknowledge that I exist. I first noticed this last Thursday at Parker's attempt at disproving that there's no such thing as a free lunch. (He rolled out the barbecue and grilled food left over from Cal Day.)

Well, Glushko was there. He smoozes with students. And he repeatedly pulled people aside to talk to them. But when I attempted to get into a general conversation he was holding with somebody else, he proceeded to ignore anything I said. And so I've been watching and seeing him in the labs, and he'll go talk to other students, but he's not said a word to me. Not a single word. Not even 'hi'. Grr. It really bothers me and something needs to be done.

So...what do I do now? does anybody have any advice? How do I let him know that he's not being fair?

Then again, I'm not a true disciple of the XML way, so there's probably no hope for me.

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[burningriver.livejournal.com]

hi, you don't know me, but ....

Is this *Bob* Glushko you're talking about?

I've been doing structured markup stuff for 15+ years now, and am guessing that this is the same Glushko I've been running into at conferences and working with clients throughout this time. And if it is, I'm not sure that there's much you can do ... since the behavior you report is what I've heard and observed in multiple situations. He goes blank on seeing certain people. Just blank -- you're not there, you're not talking, you don't really exist. What I've seen change that behavior (at least briefly) is if you're in a situation where somebody he respects is *already* talking with you (referring to you), etc. *Then* he may (at least briefly) recognize that you exist, but the stickiness of that recognition can be transient, too.

Beyond that, I'm not convinced that "fair" is part of his vocabulary.

--Elaine

[katster.livejournal.com]

That would be who this is.

Unfortunately, I've got that going, and I'm in his *class*. :P

Well, I know to avoid him for future classes and I'll just try to get things done and deal with it. At least Brian (who is co-teacher in one of the classes) *is* fair, and has done a heck of a lot to help me out.

As I said, I'm not a disciple of the One True Way of XML (it's a handy tool, but just that), and he is, of course, the prophet. :P

Thanks, anyway. At least I know there's not much that I can do.

-kat

Kat, it is the end of the month

[yushion.livejournal.com]

and I have agreed not to say or do anything util now... inwhich I have kept my word... this is a new month... hopefully a new start... I am tired of this.... you know and miscommunication on both side... being kept alive for this long... its sad really (NO I AM NOT CALLING YOU SAD)..

but one thing I would appricate.... if this world stop.... just think how you would feel in this situation.... one of my friends came up to me today (first chance to see them in a while) and asked me is I was really trying to make you commit suicide?... I have no idea who started it... and frankly I don't care... just as long as it ends... because like you and everyone else I have just as much shit to deal with also.

I know this sucks... and I have tried to end it, I have appoliged to you.. and patrick countless times... but tonight showed me that sometimes grudges do live on well past their death date..

Whatever the future bring.. I am sorry that this did happened. but I, just like everyone else involed in this is human too.

so... there you go

Re: Kat, it is the end of the month

[katster.livejournal.com]

Another half a month, please? Give me that, I unfortunately am not as lucky as you Canadian University students, and my finals are coming up, and I *need* my focus to be on those.

And in fairness, I did say that I may need into May way back then for exactly this reason.

*dig back* Ah ha.

"...try to keep myself away from other people's journals for at least until the end of April. (It may slip to the end of May, early May is finals time, but I'll note it on my calendar.)"

(I will be done two weeks from today, and can start tackling issues around the 16th or so.)

-kat

[ratbert.livejournal.com]

well since I don't seem to care about you I have no opinion, or do I care if what I'm about to say hinders you in school...
TELL YOUR SPINELESS BF THAT IF HE DON'T QUIT SPREADING RUMORS AND LIARS ABOUT ME AND CHRISTY THAT i MAY BE FORCED TO TAKE LEGAL ACTION... IT'S CALLED SLANDERING SOMEONES IMAGE, VERY AGAINST THE LAW MAY I MIND YOU... I WONT DO ANYTHING IF HE STOPS BUT IT'S UP TO HIM BECAUSE IF I HEAR FROM ONE MORE PERSON THAT HE'S SPREADING LIARS I'LL BE FORCED TO PUT HIM WERE HE CAN'T BE HOOKED UP TO HIS COMPUTER I.V.

[kuangning]

A) You're a bigger asshole than I thought you were. That took some doing.

B) Go take some elementary spelling and grammar courses, will you? The evidence of your lack of literacy detracts from your otherwise-flawless exhibition of callousness and detachment from reality.

C) Much like I am not holding Christy responsible for your actions, Kat is not to be held responsible for Patrick's. Most people understand this concept; however, since you don't seem to grasp it yet, let me put it into small words for you.

If you have a problem ("beef", to use a slang word that only has one syllable) with Patrick, you should take it to Patrick. Not to Kat, who is, after all, across the continent from you. And who, I will add, has other worries of her own, although you've stated you don't care.

In short: stay the hell away from Kat. She's put up with enough and more than enough from you already. Take it up with me if you have a problem, even -- I assure you, I have no problem blasting you in my journal.

[ratbert.livejournal.com]

fuck you aiobheil what kind of person are you to pick on people for bad grammer, your no better then patrick or kat, and as for me not caring I never said I didn't it's her asshole bf that keeps saying that were trying to kill her so how is it that I don't care, they made it just as hard for me and Christy during our exams and yet they didn't care so why should I? And I'd love to take my problems up with patrick, but that spinless asshole avoids us every chance I get.

[ratbert.livejournal.com]

and one more thing.. do something that your nation doesn't know how to do and that's keep your big american noses out of problems that do not involve you! That's the reason why sept 11 happened and why it will happen again because you americans don't mind your own business. So you can do like everyone else and grow up and finally understand that you are not god or that you guys don't rule the world and pick on everyone because of problems that have. But I guess that's what happens when theirs a nation of asshole and idiots.

[katster.livejournal.com]

they made it just as hard for me and Christy during our exams and yet they didn't care so why should I?

Since this is your entire stated purpose for being here, I'm not putting up it with it. Especially since you only started up after I asked nicely for a two week extension on discussing this all, which I had said I might have needed in March.

So, consider yourself unwelcome here.

Have a nice day.

-kat

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[kuangning]

Oh wow. Let me take these points on slowly, so you have a chance of comprehending them.

fuck you aiobheil what kind of person are you to pick on people for bad grammer,

I'm the kind who uses correct punctuation, knows when to use an apostrophe, and can spell "grammar" correctly. Enough said.

as for me not caring I never said I didn't

"well since I don't seem to care about you I have no opinion, or do I care if what I'm about to say hinders you in school.." Remember those words? They're in your comment above. That makes your statement a lie. Pretty strange from someone who claims to be upset about "liars" being spread.

And I'd love to take my problems up with patrick,

In case you've forgotten, his livejournal username is zibblsnrt. As opposed, say, to katster. He's not that hard to find, though I don't blame him if he's decided he wants nothing more to do with small-minded, brutish, ignorant people who seem incapable of seeing reason.

[kuangning]

Ahh, yes. I've been properly put in my place, so I have. By someone who couldn't bother to read my userinfo and thus know that I was born and raised in the West Indies. Or perhaps it's just your vaunted want of reading skills at work again.

You came into Kat's journal and attacked her in public. You put your hostility, your callousness, and your ignorance where everyone could see them. As far as I'm concerned, this is no longer a private issue between you and my friends. If you wanted it to be, you should have approached her in a civil manner, ideally even in realtime or through email. The truth is, though, that you weren't interested in resolving anything. Everything you've said in this thread has been an attack, and now that you've been called on it, you want to hide behind yet another attack on nationalistic stereotypes. I'm unimpressed. In fact, I'm disgusted. I say again, leave Kat alone. Take up your problems with the person involved.