pining, I guess you'd say...

[katster]

The last few days have been filled with the desire to see and hug Patrick again, which is really starting to eat at me, because I need to pay attention to a lot of other things. How do y'all deal with this long-distance stuff, especially when this sort of thing comes up?

-kat, miserable

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[http://users.livejournal.com/killjoy_/]

Speaking from experience... poorly.

... that's not quite meant to be funny... just... it's the nature of the beast, from what I've seen and experienced. =(

[tropism.livejournal.com]

Gotta agree with that.

In the future, god forbid, I think I'll lean heavily on drugs, cheap sci-fi novels, and Maizella, the mexican whore I recently purchased in Tijuana, and who is now living in my closet with my iguana.

[nickm.livejournal.com]

*nods vehemently in agreement with what KJ said*

LD relationships can work .. except for the fact that the one you're seeing then ends up on the other side of a large landmass when you need them most. *shrug*

[aquahaute.livejournal.com]

In my case, rather suckily.

Finding people to angst to who wouldn't get sick of me instantly. Clinging to mid-sized plushies. Scheduling my time to ascertain I got done what needed to be done. Minimizing time spent discussing relationship things with people who were merely going to rub it in my face.

Oh, and right after seeing him, spending the next couple nights sleeping with whatever I was wearing the day I saw him.

And making a point of devoting some time specifically to thinking and daydreaming and remembering him, because it was awful to have to say to myself, "I don't have time to dwell on something this important to me."

In fact, even now, in the same town as each other, I still do that last one, in the form of brief reminiscing about the events of the weekend.

Erm, if you didn't want actual tactical strategies, my apologies. Snag a hug from whatever random friends you have laying around.

[kuangning]

*nods.* I tend to appropriate pillows and items of clothing. *wrysmile.* and I send cards. Sitting down to write one and concentrating on the recipient long enough to send one usually makes me feel closer to them by the time I'm through. And since I almost never let myself send a card that sounds like I'm depressed, it means thinking of good things long enough to maybe affect my mood. Phone cards are your friend -- but you know that already.

[tsjafo.livejournal.com]

The years I spent apart from my family didn't go well. The first were the worst in the sense that our only means of contact were letters. Later, email made things much easier as we could communicate daily, allowing for time zone differences. During the last years we were actually able to talk to each other using online voice programs and finally we were close enough to use the phone. Nothing gives you back the time you lose but at least you can stay in touch with each other. God bless the internet.

[jenny_evergreen]

*blush* I suspect your current state of mine is at least partly because of my journal. I'm sorry!

Actually, for all that I'm not doing so good myself this time 'round, I do have some suggestions. 1. Keep Busy. That helps a lot. 2. Keep a journal. A private, special journal into which you can pour all your feelings and emotions. I started keeping a lover's journal as a teen. (And, yeah, I kept the journals, even as the lovers themselves became former lovers.)
Tom's journal is a sort of collection of love letters, handily bound. It includes the good and the not so good, and he can read it whenever he wants. I hardly ever write in his journal anymore. But every once in a while...like the last time he was Away...
I hope the feeling eases up soon.